Attachment Style Quiz: What Your 90s Rom-Com Behavior Reveals About Your Relationship Psychology
# Attachment Style Quiz: What Your 90s Rom-Com Behavior Reveals About Your Relationship Psychology
> **Quick answer:** There are four main attachment styles — Secure (The Secure Lead), Anxious/The Hopeless Romantic, Avoidant/The Independent One, and Disorganized/The Complicated One. Roughly 56% of adults are secure, 25% avoidant, 20% anxious, and 5-20% disorganized. This guide explains what each style actually looks like in real relationships, and the free quiz below identifies yours using scenarios based on real psychology.
You already knew something was going on. Why you replay texts, why some silences feel fine and others feel catastrophic, why you want someone closer and then feel suffocated the moment they actually show up. Attachment theory — developed by John Bowlby in the 1950s and extended to adult romantic relationships by Hazan and Shaver in their landmark 1987 study — answers all of that. And it turns out the four attachment styles map almost perfectly onto 90s rom-com character archetypes, which is either poetic or just the universe having a very specific sense of humor.
## The Psychology Behind Your Attachment Style
Attachment theory starts with one insight: the bonds you formed with caregivers in early childhood created an internal "working model" — a template your brain uses to navigate every relationship that comes after. When caregiving was consistently responsive, that model says the world is generally safe, other people can be trusted, and you are worth caring about. When caregiving was inconsistent, dismissive, or frightening, the model adapts to protect you — and that adaptation follows you into adulthood whether you know it or not.
Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation experiment in the 1960s first identified three infant patterns: secure, anxious-resistant, and avoidant. A fourth — disorganized — was added later, most often seen in children of frightening or abusive caregivers. Hazan and Shaver then made the crucial extension: these same patterns govern adult romantic relationships. They found adult distributions nearly mirror infant ones — roughly 60% secure, 20% anxious, 20% avoidant — and that romantic partners function as attachment figures in the same way childhood caregivers do.